I remember the shock that followed those early months. I couldn't believe that God had allowed this. Hadn't I spent years praying for my son? Hadn't God answered so many of those prayers? I honestly believed that my prayers would be answered in exactly the way I had prayed. I couldn't believe that it had ended this way. I had so many unanswered questions.
While searching for answers I was reminded of the book of Job and how he had lost all of his children unexpectedly. I had spent time in this book after my husband became disabled for I knew that Job had suffered physically. I now began to sift through those pages again. This time hoping to find out how Job responded to the loss of his children.
I discovered Job had questions, too! *
Why didn't you let me die at birth? Job 3:11
Why didn't you dry up my mother's breast so that I would starve? 3:12
Why do you keep wretched people like me alive? 3:20-22
How do you expect me to have hope and patience? 6:11
What do you think I'm made of anyway? Stone? Metal? 6:12
If life is so short, does it have to be miserable, too? 7:1-10
Why don't you back off and quit hurting me for awhile? 7:17,19
What did I ever do to You that I became the target for Your arrows? 7:20
Why don't You forgive me before I die and it's too late? 7:21
How can mortal man be righteous before a holy God? 9:2
Why do You favor the wicked? 9:24
Since You've already decided I'm guilty, why should I even try? 9:29
You're the one who created me, so why are You destroying me? 10:8
Why do You hide Your face and consider me Your enemy? 13:24
Why don't You let me meet You somewhere face to face so I can state my case? 23:3-6
Why don't You set a time to judge wicked men? 24:1
The answer I was looking for was found towards the end of the book. God asks Job this heart probing question, "Who is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge?" God might as well have asked that question of me! "Georgene, where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth? Tell me if you have understanding."
God then begins interrogating Job with His own round of questions. Questions that will make it clear that Job lacks the knowledge and understanding to interpret life's difficult questions.
Here are just a few:
- Who made the limits for the sea saying how far it could go?
- Have you entered the springs of the sea or walked in the recesses of the deep?
- Have you commanded the morning to appear?
- Were you there when I (God) laid the foundation of the earth?
- Have you commanded the morning since your days began and caused the dawn to know it's place?
- Have you entered the storehouses of snow?
Job's response is life changing:
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.
For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9)
It became clear that I didn't have to find an answer to life's unanswerable questions.
The tormenting thoughts slowed down to a trickle once I made the decision to trust God! Keeping close watch over my thought life became essential in the coming days. God gave abundant grace to take each thought captive with Scripture,
The accusing thoughts and questions still bombard my thoughts at times. But, now they are greeted as an unwelcomed guest where before I would allow them to take up residency. I'm learning (again) that I must choose to obey His Word and trust Him.... today... in this moment.. and in this heart breaking trial.
* Permission granted to use these questions from Secret Strength by Joni Eareckson Tada.
Scriptures used from the ESV bible. Underlining is my emphasis.